I learned, if you cry, you WILL cry harder. If you don't cry, you WILL cry. My Children learned, it's ok to cry.. it's ok to show emotion.

I learned not to go to bed and dream. If you have a bad one and wake up the Father, the bad dream is much better than the reality. My Children have learned that it is ok to come to me in the middle of the night because something isn't right. That bad dreams can't hurt you and they DON'T get worse by waking up.

I learned, Do not TELL. If you tell, the one you told will use that information to blackmail the one doing wrong.. so that what SHE is doing wrong, is ignored and/or accepted without question. My Children have learned that NOBODY has the right to hurt them in any way and that if they told what someone did, they would be helped.

I learned don't do ANYTHING wrong.. or RIGHT. The punishment is the same. My Children learned that just because you did something wrong, didn't mean I approved but also didn't mean I did not love them.

I learned you can do anything and not care. Don't admit it and it didn't happen. My Children learned to have a conscience and own up to and learn from their mistakes.

As I grew older and could think for myself, and became a parent, I learned that abused Children do NOT grow up to abuse, some make that CHOICE themselves. Some use their own abuse as an EXCUSE.

I learned that my kids had the right to a normal childhood. They had the right to be happy. They were not my property they were my GIFTS.

I learned that I had a responsibility to teach them to love themselves and respect themselves and never say, " I CAN'T "

Yeah, you taught me a lot. But   I broke the cycle. That is proven by how well my grandkids are being raised. That is proven everytime I see one of MY kids, teaching THEIR kids... what they themselves were taught!

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