| I have now had this part of my site up for over 3 years. In that time, I have heard from many, many other people about their own abuse or the abuse a loved one has endured. These people range from the very young.. to the very old. Male and female. I have made some friends for life. It's amazing how sad and hurtful things can connect people together! I have heard a lot of different stories
of abuse and neglect. Beatings, molestation, rape and even worse! YES.. their is WORSE!
People need to TALK. I've had many people just thank me for the 'openness' of my site and
say it made them cry for the first time about their own abuse. Today, I had a man tell me
he cried for the 1st time in 40 years about his own abuse. I tell them cry it out! Then... TALK, TALK, TALK! Talk to someone who will listen. JUST listen. Talk to yourself! Get angry! It HAPPENED! Acknowledge it! Write it down! When the thoughts of it hit you in the middle of the night, get up and write it down. Voice your anger. Whether it be in story form or a poem or just your thoughts at random.. write it! "YOU did this to me!" "It was WRONG!" "I was INNOCENT!" Place the blame where it belongs. Even if it helps to say... "I HATE YOU FOR WHAT YOU DID TO ME!" Write it all down.. even if nobody ever sees it but you.. you're getting it OUT! Talking is the second step in healing. Talk until it's all out. Then there comes the FORGIVENESS. Yes, there has to be forgiveness. forgive your abuser. Forgive what your abuser has done. Forgive the enablers. They will have their own judgement day. Without forgiveness, there can be no 'letting go.' Without letting go, there can be no healing. You will never FORGET... but you can forgive. Forgiveness is the 3rd
step in healing. Kat
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